Waiting for happiness

Its only natural to keep wanting more out of life, right?

Who doesn’t want more money, a better job, a nicer house, an awesome skill or an incredible relationship?

We all do! What we all need to be careful of though is for waiting for the next thing to be happy.

That is NOT to say don’t strive and work as hard as you possibly can to achieve your goals. Rather this is to say if we wait for these goals in order to feel like we can be happy or finally live our lives, then we will fall for a never ending cycle of never being happy.

The reason for this is twofold

1) there will always be more; if you wait for the nice big house to be happy, it is only a matter of time before you will naturally focus on the next goal - and then err in thinking once you achieve that goal you will be happy

2) You will inevitably become desensitized to whatever the accomplishment is. In other words, when you land the big house, it might truly feels amazing. In fact, after some time, you might still love your house. However it is only natural that it will not continue to hold the same level of excitement and accomplishment as it did when you first acquired it. What is tricky about this tip is that despite many of us knowing it, we are extremely wired as humans to keep thinking in these terms. I cannot stress enough to keep this tip consistently on your radar as a reminder that this whole living life thing is a process! It is not a game with levels that you can win. There will always be more. Once you truly come to terms with this, you can start experiencing happiness right now. 

If pursuing happiness is something you are interested in addressing Philadelphia therapist Noam Dinovitz can help!

Feel free to contact us at 484 424 7722 or Noam@DinovitzCounseling.com